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Can Men & Women Be Just Friends w/o Those Other Issues?

Updated: Aug 25, 2023

In a world that treasures authentic bonds, fostering genuine friendships between men and women isn't just a possibility—it's a source of enrichment. The path to a "romantic relationship" follows the path of and will always include a degree of friendship at the start. The question is how do we keep ourselves from falling into the trap where things go where they were never intended?

For those curious about the genesis of meaningful relationships, these pivotal points listed here warrant careful consideration. However, the challenge lies in the fact that not everyone will readily embrace the red flags outlined below.

How You Find Yourself in That Space

1. Parallel Paths: Many so-called "platonic friendships" unwittingly tread the same trail as romantic relationships. They feel and look the same but are often times ignored.

2. Unconscious Mimicry: Engaging in activities that mirror those of couples often occurs without the conscious awareness needed to steer clear of romantic entanglements.

3. The Hidden Intent: A lack of upfront honesty about intentions often leads individuals to assume the role of a friend, only to reveal deeper emotions later on.

4. Solo Engagements: Interactions occur without the involvement or awareness of the other individual's romantic partner (if applicable).

5. Overwhelming Preoccupation: An excessive focus on their actions, arrivals, departures, and well-being can signal a transition beyond friendship.

Undoubtedly, many of you have reached a stage in life where your preferences, interests, and personal boundaries are clear (a.k.a. The know-better phase). Thus, the inclination towards someone who occupies the realm of friendship is often accompanied by a sense of attraction.

To address the query at hand—can men and women truly sustain friendships, the answer remains a resounding yes! Nevertheless, this dynamic requires purposeful action and the establishment of firm boundaries, ensuring both individuals remain securely in their designated lanes.

Let's think this through together as we embark on this journey. These steps are set up on the premise that you are wanting to have platonic friendships. If that is not the case, then at best be honest with yourself in this moment.

For those that do, here are the steps to create meaningful bonds without physical involvement:

Establish Clear Intentions:

  • Communicate openly and honestly about your desire for a genuine friendship devoid of romantic or physical pursuits. (be real about where your head is)

  • Set the tone for the relationship by discussing your respective expectations and boundaries. (take this step seriously)

Shared Interests as the Foundation:

  • Discover common hobbies, interests, or passions that serve as the bedrock of your friendship.

If either of you has someone in your life, adding them and making an introduction should be considered.

  • Engage in activities that promote shared experiences and mutual understanding.

This step will require spending some degree of time together and is where the lines can become blurred.

Open and Respectful Communication:

  • Foster an environment of active listening, where both parties feel heard and understood.

  • Encourage open conversations about personal thoughts, feelings, and life experiences.

Be careful and do not feel the need to pour out your entire heart. If you do in most cases, you are giving someone with ill intent, the map to your emotions.

Mutual Respect and Empathy:

  • Treat each other with kindness, respect, and consideration, fostering a sense of emotional safety.

  • Show empathy by understanding each other's perspectives, emotions, and challenges.


  • Clearly define and respect personal boundaries to ensure comfort and maintain the friendship's integrity.

  • Discuss and agree upon any potential gray areas or situations that might pose challenges to these boundaries.

This step works with the open communication piece. There need to be boundaries on what is discussed, who is discussed, and where you discuss it.

Group Activities and Social Settings:

  • Engage in group outings and social events to create a context that minimizes intimate one-on-one situations.

  • Surround yourselves with a diverse circle of friends to reinforce the platonic nature of your relationship.

This is critical to the growth of a friendship and can keep it on the up and up. However, people can try and hide their intentions from you while being in plain sight of the crowd.

Honesty About Feelings:

  • If romantic feelings arise, address them openly and honestly without fear of judgment.

  • Discuss the potential impact on the friendship and explore ways to navigate these emotions together.

Do not make any assumptions. Work to figure yourself out first and avoid putting pressure on the friendship by stating your feelings for someone. Ask yourself "Why" are you having these feelings?

Time and Consistency:

  • Invest time in building the friendship gradually to develop trust and familiarity.

  • Consistency in communication and interaction helps solidify the platonic bond.

Ignoring these Steps Could Result In:

  1. Confusion and Mixed Signals: Neglecting clear communication and boundaries might lead to misunderstandings about the nature of the relationship, causing confusion and frustration.

  2. Strained Relationships: Ignoring shared interests and pursuing physical activities can compromise the foundation of the friendship, potentially leading to tension or distance.

  3. Unresolved Emotions: Failing to address romantic feelings could create underlying tension, preventing the friendship from thriving authentically.

  4. Unintended Consequences: Without honest conversations and mutual understanding, the friendship might unintentionally drift into romantic territory or become fraught with unspoken expectations.

  5. Loss of Connection: Ignoring the essential steps could result in a loss of connection, missing out on the potential for a deeply rewarding platonic friendship.

In a world that thrives on genuine connections, embracing these steps with sincerity and commitment can foster beautiful and lasting friendships between men and women, transcending physical attraction and enriching lives in unimaginable ways. What I am hopeful that you do not do, is pretend, deny, suppress, and hide what is really happening with the interaction.

Who knows; they maybe feeling you in the same manner. As long as you both are clear, then it should not be a problem, right?

What are your thoughts on this? Can men and women be friends minus any boundaries?

I help all types of relationships flourish! I am Coach Kenn!

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